Bond Score

Twenty questions about how a primary partner bond gets fed. Take it about yourself. Have your partner take it about you. Compare.

A bond isn't something you have. It's something you feed or starve, every day, in small acts. This tool measures ten kinds of feeding: attention, emotional responsiveness, reliability, vulnerability, affection, shared experience, prioritization, repair, mutual dependence, and positive regard.

Self-ratings run flattering. So the questions ask you to count what actually happened in the last two weeks, a few are worded backwards, and a few ask what you think your partner would say. The most honest version is when both of you take it and compare.

Your answers stay in this browser. Only ten dimension scores and your three priorities travel with the link — no names, no answers.

Before you begin
Before you begin
Pick three.
Last thing

Scores show the shape. These show the substance. Optional, but it's where the follow-up conversation gets its depth.

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Bond Score

The ten dimensions

Where the bond is being fed

Where it's going hungry

Compare with your partner

What the score does not mean

A bond is a two-person system, and this score describes one person's contribution as seen by one person. A low score doesn't mean someone is a bad partner. A high score doesn't mean the relationship is safe. It means you can now see, in specific terms, what's being fed and what has gone quiet.

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This is an educational self-reflection tool drawing on attachment research and the work of Gottman, Johnson, and others on long-term partnership. It is not a clinical assessment and does not constitute medical, psychological, or relationship advice. If you are in an abusive relationship, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 or text START to 88788. If you are in crisis, contact the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline (call or text 988).